::Edit:: I wrote this Monday, March 10, 2008. Shit that was a while ago. Updated list soon to come ::Edit::
Someone who:
- Believes that the only acceptable abbreviations in the electronic world are ‘lol’, ‘jk’, and ‘g2g’
- Believes that Frank Sinatra is transcendent and that Otis Redding is a bit behind as a second
- Reads more than I do
- Doesn’t share all my interests
- Doesn’t like everything I do
- Doesn’t try to learn new things to impress me
- Dabbles in videogames
- Is a fan of Disney World (not Disneyland, there’s a difference)
- Knows when I’m serious or joking
- Knows the difference between arguing and fighting
- Refuses to end the day angry
- Acknowledges her love of late 90′s pop
- Does not have the crazy eyes
- Doesn’t abuse ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you’
- Appreciates fresh fruit
- Looks good in pajama pants and a sweatshirt
- Knows the difference between being alone and being lonely
- Looks good in a little black dress
- Can talk about music for hours
- Knows when to motivate me or let me sleep
- Can make brunch
- Appreciates jazz
- Understands my fascination with comics/anything a 5-year old boy would like
- Isn’t content to settle
- Understands that slow dancing is underrated
- Knows that ‘Every Breath You Take’ is about a stalker, but it’s still kind of romantic
- Doesn’t use the words ‘like’, ‘um’, ‘err’ profusely in every sentence
- Understands grammar
- Can convince me I’m wrong
- Prefers AIM to the phone
- I can watch crappy TV with
- Wants something more than lust
- Can sing
- Can fix her own iPod
- Appreciates sarcasm
- Is a romantic
- Is smart, intelligent, and thoughtful
- Knows which city I speak of when I say ‘A Whale’s Vagina’
- Believes in something
- Loves Christmas time
- Thinks Angelina Jolie is a bit freakish looking
- Doesn’t mind that I look like an idiot when I dance
- Knows that it’s all in the details
- Knows the principle of the thing
I’m missing a few things, but that’ll do for now.
Interested parties do not have to have everything listed
Contact info is in the profile
Stay Tuned, There’s More After the Break
- T
For Nice Guys Who Claim That Women Have Forgotten About Them.
There are a lot of guys who claim that the reason for their romantic woes is that they in fact are ‘nice guys’ and that chivalry is dead. For the longest time, I was one of them, blaming my lack of a significant other on the fact that girls don’t go for ‘nice’ and for some random reason love douches and assholes. I wanted to believe that being nice was not mutually exclusive to having a girlfriend. However, as time went by some self-pity kicked in and I convinced myself that it was something wrong with society and culture that chivalry has gone to the wayside. Then, for some unknown reason, I actually started to think instead of laying the stereotypical and easy blame.
Ask yourself, as a nice guy, when was the last time that you actually asked a girl on a date. Not to ‘hang out’, not as some ambiguous ‘is it, isn’t it’ date, but an actual date. Or hell, when was the last time instead of fantasizing in your head about what could be or what should have happened you actually did something about it?
I guarantee you, 9 times out of 10 you just sat on your ass.
So here it is, if you’re a nice guy, what do you really believe? Do you believe that for the reasons that you’re nice and you treat women with respect that you automatically deserve someone? Isn’t that a bit arrogant? Or is it that you’re simply too lazy to do something about it. Maybe you just like saying that your niceness is standing in the way of your romantic bliss because it’s an easy and ready excuse. Or is it that you’re just that shy and awkward when approaching a girl. Think about it.
In my experience, I have never heard a girl say, “Oh, I didn’t like him because he treated me with respect” or “Oh, he’s nice. That completely turns me off.” Can you remember a time when someone has said that? Honestly ask yourself that.
That being said nice guys, get up off your asses. You can google hundreds of inspirational quotes essentially telling you to take a shot because if you don’t, you’ll always fail. Just do it. If you’re shy, keep plugging at it. Sitting, waiting, and wondering only compounds the problem. If you don’t want to go after someone, then say so, don’t use an excuse, and don’t think for one second that just because you’re nice you simply deserve someone. In fact, you’re such a catch that women should be tripping over themselves to get to you. That is in fact the height of arrogance, and then if you think about it, are you really that good of a guy?
Most of you who know me (and I hope that if you’re reading this note that you do) know that I subscribed to this whole ‘chivalry is dead’ credo wholeheartedly. Call me a hypocrite, call me whatever, but what I’ve written is what I think, at least of late. Identifying niceness as a crippling personality trait is kind of ludicrous, especially when you use it as an excuse to cover whatever flaws or insecurities that you have. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but when you do take that step, it’s kind of liberating. That being said, for all you nice guys, take a moment a top your high horse and just truly ask yourself if this bold and sweeping credo that you swear by is actually valid. If you honestly do believe it, please tell me how you convinced yourself of this. If you can’t, get off the saddle. I mean, I don’t think saddles are that comfortable anyways.
Speaking of arrogance, I use google spellcheck, as do a lot of people. When I used ‘google’ as a verb it made me capitalize it. C’mon. I guess if I was referring to the company I’d hit that up in caps, but I feel now the word has been incorporated into the common lexicon enough that it can just be used without it being proper. Go back to your grassroots Google Inc.